“Thanks to the Deliberate Dating course, which is a wonderful course, I have way more intention and awareness now. I thought I knew beforehand how to read signals and cues, but now I am blown away at what I was missing! I am now a champion Deliberate Dater and feel much more confident about how to navigate this dating process and not end up in the same dead ends!
– Lisa N., 41
“I joined the inaugural Deliberate Dating program back in the fall. I remember calling Cindy on the phone one afternoon to tell her about what I was experiencing as someone back on the dating scene after an 8 year relationship came to an end. My routine involves work, the gym, and sometimes Target (ha!), so I figured my dating pool was pretty small. As someone that had never used online dating platforms/apps before last June, I was pretty trepidatious about who I would meet while using them. I had told her that in the couple of months I had been on an app, I had gone on a few dates. Surprisingly, they all went pretty well and I met some interesting people. While talking to Cindy, I remember telling her about how I felt like the guys I met were more friends than potential romantic partners. I also worried about the authenticity of people I would meet online. I had questions–“How do I know this person is who they say they are? How do I gauge someone’s interest in me? When something doesn’t feel right, how will I know how to navigate the situation and do what is best for me?” As someone that was in an unhealthy relationship with trust issues, I had a lot of hesitations about new potential partners but also about how I would handle myself in a new relationship.
The Deliberate Dating program gave me many tools to allow me to show up for myself and to discover what I want from my partner and romantic relationships. Cindy’s program was highly interactive, engaging, intimate, and fun. Every session left me with new aha moments as well as food for thought. Creating an ideal partner blueprint that included what I was willing to receive versus what I never wanted to feel or experience again was a very powerful exercise. We also did a lot of work on ourselves to better understand who we are through a values assessment, the enneagram, and more. I also learned more about how to have meaningful conversations with a partner where both of us are seen and heard. Getting to go through this program with others gave us the opportunity to share, be vulnerable, grow, and practice with one another. I always looked forward to our time together and miss it now that it’s over.”
Coincidentally, I had just met someone on Bumble after I had signed up for Deliberate Dating. Being able to put into practice what I was learning with Cindy in my new relationship was so powerful. The other girls in the course were in different spots than I was and we all benefitted from the tools we were adding to our “relationship toolbox.” I am so fulfilled with my partner and we have now been together for 8 months. I have been vulnerable with him, open about what I am feeling and needing, able to advocate for myself when needed, and to also be able to allow him the same with me. It is so refreshing to be in an interdependent relationship where we can both be our authentic selves and be present for one another. I cannot suggest this program enough if you are someone that is ready to become more aware and confident in who you are and what you value in a partner.”
– Amanda E., 31