“I’m not going to wait 90 days to have sex to only find out they’re bad in bed!” This person is revealing their mindset about relationships– sex is the ultimate achievement in a relationship. The best part. The main reason for the relationship. The whole point. The key to true power. If the first [...]
“Y’all need to walk into this party tonight like your pussies cost $1 million!” “You just need to catch a dick and forget about all of your troubles.” Say what?! Two phrases of dialogue I paused to write down in the pilot episode of Euphoria starring the young star, Zendaya. I would have never [...]
The Enneagram is an ancient, powerful tool for personal and collective transformation. Stemming from the Greek words ennea (nine) and grammos (a written symbol), the nine-pointed Enneagram symbol represents nine distinct strategies for relating to the self, others and the world. How do we know what is real? I’m sure you’ve heard the story of a group of [...]
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a well-known humanistic approach to psychotherapy formulated in the 1980’s and developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment, a profound developmental theory of personality and intimate relationships. This science has expanded our understanding of individual dysfunction and health as well as the nature of love relationships and family [...]
When I explain to women and men that waiting at least 90-days upon meeting someone new in order to have sex with them is wise, they often laugh, roll their eyes and say something akin to “yeah, I don’t see that happening!” I can feel myself getting placed in either the “she’s a prude” [...]
How to Give Our Partner Space when There is NONE! Couples, roommates, colleagues, parents and children, we all have one of only 9 different personalities. 7.7 billion people on the planet and there are just 9 personality types. That’s it. Actually, there are 27 personality types according to the Enneagram, the world’s oldest personality [...]
VALUES ACTIVITY FOR COUPLES A great activity I do with couples when they aren’t in duress but perhaps coming in for a tune-up because stress is throwing them off their game and they aren’t jiving like they know they can is the simple yet powerful “values activity”. I have a list of 50 small [...]
Talking about Pickleball, Deliberate Dating, and How Relationships Can Heal, Transform, and Enrich Our Lives Across the Ages on Calvin Keeney's Podcast
Dating is Broken Dating is brokenAnd I ain’t jokin’ You need more than a pretty profileTo make me smile What’s in your heart and are you smartMatter way more to me before I even start Can you speak the truthCan you own the wrongs of your youth Sex is easy, babyIf that’s enough for you [...]
“Dating is hard.” “Online dating is inauthentic.” “Men aren’t even trying. They are lazy jerks.” “Women are playing games. Bitches be trippin’!” In the past, before online dating, a single, professional man or woman would be lucky to meet one potential suitor a month. And that would be considered a good month! But [...]
