The Ugly Truth About Middle School Today I miss the days when everything I said didn’t have to be classified as sexual or inappropriate. I miss the days when I could say, “That was hard!” and not have some ignorant kid yell, “That’s what she said!” I miss the days when someone said, “I’m coming!” [...]
Dating in the world of hookups “Hit it and Quit it!” It’s one of the dating cries of Generation Z-- (also known as iGeneration or iGen and Post-Millennials) the people born between 2000 and present. Having gotten this far into this newsletter means you have put forth much more effort into reading this than many [...]
Parents, Hold Your NO! Holding your NO as a parent is not always easy. But for heaven’s sake, hold it! And hold it tight and true! I recently posted a video of me having to come to terms with this fact all over again. And I already knew it. Talk about teach and [...]
Holding Court: We Need More Men Like Coach Nichols! Tonight I went to my son’s spring basketball banquet. It was mostly what you’d expect from a high school event like this. Perfunctory speeches from coaches who are mostly reluctant public speakers, awkward teen-age boys wearing the same ties they’ve worn to each game day carefully [...]
I’ve been asked this many times as I’ve been dating. It’s an understandable question once people know that I am a psychotherapist. That is in essence what I do for a living. I analyze people. I’ve learned to respond with “Yes! And I hope you’re doing the same thing too!” But they’re not. What I’ve [...]
Bully-Proofing your Child Bully-proofing your child has nothing to do with the bullies. Nothing. No-thing. It’s all about YOUR child. It’s about raising a resilient child. How does one do that in a society riddled with political correctness? In this climate of your words hurt my feelings. “That’s rude.” “You’re mean.” “How ignorant.” “So [...]
Minimizing, Mitigating and Marginalizing Ourselves with Every Day Speech! "Kinda", "sorta", "maybe", "I guess" and "I don't know" are just some of the phrases that punctuate the stories I hear each week in my practice. It grabbed my attention one day recently, when I heard a young woman answer my simple question, "How are you [...]
How to Talk to Your Child About Sex and Love A friend and colleague of mine and I had a few minutes to connect between clients one afternoon and I remember relaying some brief story that my 12 year-old son and I had been talking about. It was funny or cute or both, but [...]
Fed Up "Fed Up" the movie http://fedupmovie.com/#/page/home is a game changer. Or at least a pantry changer and for sure a life style changer. Patrick and I saw it this weekend (it's in theaters now) and we had these thoughts in this order: "How interesting!" then "What in the world!", "Now, we're pissed off!", "Greed is [...]
General Examples of Being Loving We all share the goal of being more loving to our partner, but most of us don’t have a clue what that would look like. Here are some situations people had and how they could be more loving. If you want to do an activity with a friend, it is more [...]
